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Compatibility is as important with the cycles as it is with character traits. It is possible
for a relationship between two people with otherwise very compatible charts to break down
as a result of encountering one or more incompatible cycles. However, it is much easier
to overcome or avoid possible pitfalls resulting from incompatible cycles than from incompatible
personality traits.
Relationship compatibility of Personal Year or Month cycles can have a powerful effect.
But keep in mind: the cycle is short. So, if you run into turmoil, it helps to remember
that it is in the nature of a cycle to be only temporary.
Cycles compatibility is analyzed similar to the way we look at numbers in the personality
profile.
1 & 1 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this period promises to be one of new beginnings, new directions, of discovery
of your own selves. In other words, it will be an awakening to new dreams and goals. It
is, therefore, an exciting time, full of new energy, a new direction and new priorities.
It will also bring new energy to the relationship. Quite possibly, you will feel a different
level of maturity within the relationship, which will be stronger, more secure, and more
stable.
John and Mary, a disruption – at least a temporary one – is common in the beginning of
a new cycle. The changes both of you underwent will now require adjustments to the relationship.
Communicating; sharing your feelings, your questions, your doubts, is now more important
than ever. You may want to spend some time together, away from the daily routines. Devote
quality time to each other so as to let the new changes be absorbed and to gain an understanding
of your partner’s changed priorities and goals. If you don’t allow yourselves that opportunity,
you will feel as if you had been separated for some time and then had to discover each other
again.
John and Mary, this will probably be a good period for both of you. You will be more confident
and capable of handling any obstacles as well as taking advantage of opportunities.
1 & 2 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John, you are entering a period of renewal that brings in new energy as well as a change
of direction in your personal life and in your career. You feel motivated and aggressive,
perhaps even impatient - nothing moves fast enough for you. Mary, on the other hand, is
slowing down somewhat, more concerned about looking for ways to improve relationships with
other people. For Mary, this is a time of networking, finding resources, and aligning with
others, a time during which emotions and feelings are more important than usual, and Mary
may well be a bit more vulnerable in that respect.
These cycles are compatible in most ways and they support each other. John will be the
engine of change and progress, while Mary will steer and redirect. However, John will have
to be sensitive and careful and not expect Mary to be as motivated and driven. In turn,
Mary needs to avoid making mountains out of molehills or letting emotions get the better
of common sense. John may also have to accept the fact that Mary is a bit more demanding
than usual.
1 & 3 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, not only is this one of the most compatible cycles but it also shows that
your cycles are usually compatible in nature. A gap of two will always be maintained, which,
as a rule of thumb, is a good sign. Next time, your cycles will be two and four, the period
after that three and five, and so forth.
For this period, John, you are like someone who just awoke from a long rest, had a cup
of coffee, and are now rearing to go. Your energy level is high. You feel strong and capable
and don’t want to be held back by anyone or anything. Mary also experiences a dynamic time,
but with less focus and more play. Mary’s energy is more directed towards creativity, self-expression
and relaxation.
The only possible discordance with this combination of cycles usually lies in John’s perception
of Mary’s behavior as lacking responsibility. Mary is not in the mood to take anything very
serious, which may become a source of irritation for John. John, you need to accept the
fact that this period represents somewhat of a break – as matter of fact, a necessary break
- for Mary.
1 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, as a rule of thumb, the one-and-four combination, when found in this part
of the progressive chart, is not compatible. Although both cycles represent strong drive
and motivation, as well as a need to apply and put forth effort, they express it very differently.
John, you are motivated in large part by enthusiasm, dreams, hope and a can-do attitude.
Mary, your drive is born from frustration and the feeling that you need to break out of
a shell that has for too long limited and restricted you. Your frustration may become worse
before it gets better, Mary, and your challenge is not to let it vent itself towards the
people you love and care for. The four cycle is never an easy one, but, in the end, it invariably
brings progress and a breakthrough of some kind. So, Mary, have faith in that and just keep
going.
John, don’t get impatient with Mary’s doubts and frustration. Remember that this is a time
of opportunity for you, and that is what you should go for. Just focus on your goals.
1 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
This is a highly compatible combination, John and Mary. John is at the brink of a new direction
where signs of opportunity and progress are very clear. Mary also faces a dynamic time,
but a period in which little goes according to plan. If you had to draw a schematic of these
cycles, the one cycle as found in John’s chart would probably show a straight line throughout
the period, perhaps a few bends and curves, but all clearly going in one direction. As in
Mary’s schematic, the five cycle would be represented by nothing but curves and bends alongside
very few straight lines. So, the conclusion is: the whole cycle is about change and movement.
John and Mary, for both of you this is a time in which you may have less opportunity – and
even less desire - to pay a lot of attention to each other. You would do well accepting
that from the beginning so neither of you will feel left out and ignored. You are both going
to have your hands full and need to apply yourself to your own needs and desires. For Mary,
the keyword is discipline. Try to stay focused but be flexible at the same time. For John,
the keyword is drive. Take advantage of your energy and do your best to reach your goals.
It sounds like a contradiction, but if you both apply yourself to your own needs, you will
be doing each other a favor and the chances of disrupting your relationship will be smaller.
Rest assured, you will be spending lots of time together next cycle, when the two and the
six rule.
1 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
Your commitment to each other will be tested during this time, when outside influences
may be affecting you in a negative way. You will need to trust and to rely on each other.
It is quite likely that jealousy will rear its ugly head and it is good to understand right
away that blame is not the answer. Turmoil will be around and the relationship will lack
stability. This is one of the most difficult and challenging combinations, and it is important
to remember that your greatest strength is found in your faith in each other. While going
through stages of doubt and insecurity, Mary may, at the same time, be the target of too
much attention by someone else. In the meantime, John will tend to be very focused on goals
and career, and may be somewhat oblivious to the signals that would otherwise warn John
to start paying attention to Mary. For both of you, the answer lies in a conscious effort
to be as much a part in your partner’s life as possible, even if that proves to be somewhat
inconvenient.
There is also a strong possibility of a birth in the family. This combination of cycles
often represents the birth of a child. If that is the case, everything changes and the relationship
becomes much stronger.
1 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
The challenge in the relationship between these two cycles is to maintain the feeling of
belonging. There are big differences between the way the one cycle and the seven cycles
affect you, John and Mary, but one thing they have in common is that both cycles increase
the awareness of independence and individuality. In other words, John and Mary, both of
you will kind of feel your selves distancing from the relationship, which is not per se
bad. In fact, it may add to the longevity of your relationship. However, if your expectations
are that you will spend a lot of time together, share everything, and that nothing will
change, your expectations will not be met.
The wise thing to do is to accept the fact that you will move apart somewhat during this
period. It is temporary and necessary for your personal growth.
John, you should focus on your career and goals. For Mary, the focus is more inward, towards
spiritual and mental growth. Mary is going through a period of self-discovery and needs
time alone. John has opportunities for progress and needs to take advantage of that. As
you can see, your individual needs demand that you pay less attention to your partner and
more to your selves. This may make you feel as if the relationship were weakening. That
is not the case, unless you turn it into an issue. If you simply accept the fact that your
partner’s attention is focused elsewhere, you will find that this period offers growth to
both of you as individuals, and does not do that at the cost of the relationship.
1 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
The one and eight is an excellent combination to inspire both of you to get busy. John
is pushing towards goals and Mary is discovering goals. The two of you are treading on a
path of progress and financial improvement, although there may be some danger involved for
Mary, who should be very careful and suspicious of any get-rich-quick schemes.
The gap between the cycles is considerable and has to do with your different spiritual
paths. This will become particularly clear during this period and may cause some problems
in the relationship. Much of it is superficial and a helpful bit of advice is to just ignore
it. Sometimes, in order to maintain a healthy, strong relationship, you need to talk about
your differences. There are instances though, when it is better to just avoid the subject
and accept the fact that you love each other but are two different people with different
experiences. This is a time to ignore the differences and just enjoy each other’s company.
Both of you, John and Mary, are going through cycles that strengthen your position on the
material plane, and during their span, your best approach is to focus on that. As to your
intellectual and spiritual differences, you will be better off if you don’t disturb sleeping
dogs.
1 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
Once every nine years, John and Mary, your relationship will go through a particularly
difficult time, a time when only your commitment to your heart will be able to save your
relationship. This is such a time. You will experience turmoil, major disagreements, and
arguments intense enough that they will make you feel that your partner is no longer the
nice person you once knew. This is due to a shift in the cycles that causes an otherwise
comfortable and compatible gap of one - in place for eight years - to suddenly multiply
and, almost overnight, increase eight-fold for this one cycle. In addition, this is an emotionally
vulnerable time for Mary, exactly when John is less sensitive than usual.
There are few, if any, combinations of cycles as difficult and challenging as this one,
but with some conscious effort and a dedication to your heart, the relationship will survive
and, because of it, become stronger.
For John, the most important piece of advice is to give Mary plenty of attention, be very
sensitive to mood swings, and provide support, even if you feel that Mary is overly emotional.
For Mary, the best advice is not to take emotions too seriously. As you have read in the
description of your nine-year cycle, you are going through a lot of changes, which require
of surrender and acceptance, giving rise to a tendency to get melodramatic and emotional.
Only your hearts can save the day. So, don’t listen to your minds. No matter how much sense
the mind seems to make, it doesn’t have anywhere near the understanding that the heart carries.
2 & 2 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time when emotions rule the day. For both of you. After the last
cycle’s dynamic energy and the changes you both experienced, this cycle slows things down
a bit. Both of you will meet people who will play crucial roles and help you further your
goals. Keep your eyes open. You will receive support in all areas of your life.
It is between the two of you that some changes take place on a deeper level. John and Mary,
you are both more vulnerable and sensitive to anything related to the heart. Whereas a small
argument might have made barely a dent in your relationship before this cycle, a similar
minor confrontation could easily become a major problem this cycle. You will have to be
more sensitive to each other; pay attention and take advantage of every opportunity to show
each other the love you feel.
Over the course of this cycle, you will find that your love for each other has strengthened
and matured, even if some emotional outbursts occasionally caused some turmoil. But this
will only be the case as long as you are not afraid to show your love as well as your need
for your partner’s attention.
The saying that the home is where the heart is, is particularly true during this cycle.
You need to be together as much as possible.
2 & 3 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John is experiencing a time when emotions are felt stronger than usual and with more impact.
It is as if a protective layer has been stripped, leaving John more vulnerable than usual.
At the same time, Mary is experiencing a time of inspiration, enthusiasm, and creativity;
a light-hearted time when emotions tend to have less impact than they usually do. Mary feels
quite confident and won’t dwell on emotions as much as during other times. John, however,
feels them strongly. Often, this translates to mood swings and moments of emotional insecurity
and confusion on John’s part, contrary to Mary who is less sensitive and intuitive.
The result can be confusion and misunderstandings. Mary doesn’t understand why John is
getting so upset about some minor argument, while John wonders why Mary seems so unattached
and distracted, almost as if John’s feelings don’t matter. This is a time, Mary, to pay
close attention to John and the relationship you have together. For John, it is important
not to dwell on emotions. Feelings of neglect are unwarranted, and if Mary seems a bit caught
up in other things, that’s because Mary feels secure and comfortable enough in the relationship
to focus on creative endeavors, social events and people outside the relationship.
2 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
For John, a time of growth as a result of networking, meeting people in relation to work
or business, and consolidating plans. For Mary, a time of hard work, focus, and probably
a fair amount of frustration. For both of you, John and Mary, the focal point should be
career, work, your plans, your future.
The relationship is not much of an issue. It is possible that you will experience times
when you don’t seem to communicate much or share as much time together as usual. You may
even feel that you are pulling away from each other. Don’t worry. It is simply a matter
of not being able to be in two places at the same time.
This, however, is only one side of the coin. On a more subtle plane, it is almost as if
the opposite takes place. Because for Mary this is also a time of finding stability and
comfort. Of placing things where they belong and establishing boundaries and territories.
While for John the heart rules and emotions are strongly felt and quickly displayed. This
means that you complement each other. While Mary works on the practical aspects of your
relationship, John energizes the relationship on a deeper level. You could say that during
this time, Mary works on the home and John works on the heart.
2 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, the 2 and the 5 get along fine in many ways; they happily play together,
love together, and enjoy each others company. At least as long as everything is in harmony.
However, the moment they hit a bump in the road, the results can be disastrous.
Therefore, the trick is to avoid bumps in the road as much as possible. Strange as it sounds,
this is a good time to stay on the surface, not dig too deep.
For John, the enhanced emotional vulnerability typical of a 2 cycle opens the door to possible
negative feelings that are out of proportion with what is really going on. A minor criticism
can become a major source of discontent for John. At the same time, Mary is not as aware
as usual; more impulsive, and quicker to say something without much consideration for the
feelings of others. Mary’s mind is more active and less restrained. It is important for
both of you to take each others remarks, especially those spoken in the heat of the moment,
with a big dose of salt. Neither one of you is particularly good at expressing yourself
accurately, or true to your real nature, during this time. Mary is too quick and impulsive,
John is too sensitive and emotional. It will help you to keep this in mind and allow each
other some leeway during this time.
2 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
No two cycles are so completely involved with the heart as the 2 and the 6. John and Mary,
this is a combination of cycles that has only two possible outcomes. Simply put it is either
very good or very bad. There is not much room in the middle.
You will almost certainly experience some major disagreements. It is in how you handle
them that makes all the difference. And it is the strength of your love, the depth of your
feelings, that influences the way you respond. Therefore, you can see this combination of
cycles, John and Mary, as a kind of spiritual and emotional. It is important to realize
that the test takes place on the level of the heart and anything that seems to be the cause
of a disagreement has only a superficial meaning. In fact, the reasons are not important
at all. Anything will do. Perhaps one of you wants to move, the other wants to stay. Or
one wants to take an older relative into the house, the other doesn’t. One wants children,
the other doesn’t. The reason is never the cause.
Remember this: The key ingredients needed to prevent your relationship from breaking down
are loyalty, commitment, and honesty.
2 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John, this is not a time to pay too much attention or attach much value to your emotional
ups and downs. This is a time for you to swallow your pride, ignore any possible hurts,
and to focus on what you want. During this time, you may occasionally feel that Mary is
a bit distant and seems to live in a world that doesn’t include you. In a way, this is true.
Mary is going through a time of self-reflection, a time of spiritual wondering. For Mary,
this is a time when life itself demands a lot of attention.
John, your best response is to focus on your own life. Quite different from Mary, who is
consciously or sub-consciously, involved on a deep level with the mystery of life and all
its manifestations, John should be focused on the practical side of living; career, the
home, finances, and so forth. If you both feel that each of you is more involved in yourself
than in each other, take heart in the fact that this is not per se a bad thing. You play
different roles right now and should allow each other the space and freedom to do that.
John and Mary, it is only when you try to force your partner to move into your world, that
the relationship might get damaged. Otherwise, the relationship is actually quite safe since
neither one of you has any desire to rock the boat.
2 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a difficult combination of cycles. Your priorities are not aligned.
For John, the relationship and all matters of the heart are important at this time. Emotional
turmoil is right around the corner. And it won’t take much to turn that corner. More sensitive
than usual and vulnerable to criticism, perceived neglect, and lack of attention, John may
be quite demanding in that regard.
For Mary, the relationship takes second, or perhaps third place at this time. Mary’s focal
point is everything around the relationship. From friends to career, and from family to
finances, Mary wants to heal and improve everything that surrounds and sustains the relationship,
but in the process may not pay much attention to you, John.
In addition, Mary may feel that John does not carry enough weight, when in fact John’s
energies are simply directed elsewhere. As you can see, this combination of cycles offers
opportunities galore for misunderstandings and disagreements. It is likely that you will
experience some rough spots, but it is also likely that at the end of this period you have
both brought something to the relationship; Mary will manage to make improvements in areas
outside the relationship while John will strengthen the relationship on a deeper level.
2 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time when you will be able to recognize whether the relationship
is founded on real substance. You are both experiencing a time when emotional forces seem
to rule. John is somewhat self-absorbed and emotional about pretty much everything. Vulnerable
and sensitive, John is also more aware and finely tuned to recognize what is real and what
is not. In order for the heart to see more clearly, some protective layers have to be dismantled.
This is exactly what is going on with John in regards to the relationship. While the heart
is seeking truth and clarity, it is also more exposed and vulnerable.
For Mary, a different but no less emotionally charged period is reflected in the nine.
Mary is also searching for answers, but the question is not so much connected to the relationship
as to Mary, the human being. Mary is facing a crossroads and not sure about which way to
turn.
This is a very important time for Mary, a time during which Mary experiences ups and downs
like a roller coaster. A time of growth and choice.
John and Mary, you are two people going through different emotional and spiritual changes.
You will be able to support each other only in the most basic sense; you can give each other
love.
If the relationship has real substance, you will get through this time with flying colors.
If the relationship does not have real substance, you will both know that by the end of
this period.
3 & 3 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a period during which you will be able to enjoy each other’s company,
share ideas, and experience relatively little stress in most areas of your life.
The keyword is relative. Everything just seems to be easier to handle and problems don’t
weigh down on you as much as they might in other times. As always, though, there is another
side to the coin. This is a time when you are less focused and more scattered, a typical
side effect of creativity. If you have set specific goals, you may find your ability to
concentrate and work in a disciplined manner a bit more challenging than usual.
Your relationship will strengthen and deepen during this time. You connect easily and can
communicate better than usual.
The only drawback of this combination of cycles is that both of you will also attract attention
from other people. This may be tempting to either or both of you and can give cause to jealousy.
If that does happen, remember what is important to you and don’t let short-term pleasures
spoil your future.
3 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time when your cycles are pushing you in opposite directions.
Actually, this is often the case in your relationship and does not per se reflect a lack
of compatibility. For John, this is a time to relax and smell the roses, while Mary needs
to keep focused and maintain a high level of effort. It is important that you don’t try
to change each other’s natural inclination to follow the demands of your respective cycles.
Mary needs to accept the fact that John is not as disciplined and ambitious as usual, while
John should not try to talk Mary into taking it easy.
Contrary to what one might expect, as a rule of thumb, cycles with a gap of one point,
such as three and four or four and five, although moving in different directions, are not
per se incompatible. In fact, they often complement each other. Only when couples try too
hard to influence each other’s lives do these cycles cause stress and unhappiness.
John should be allowed to back off a little from the daily grind, while Mary should be
supported and encouraged throughout this rather demanding period.
3 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
This is one of the most compatible combinations of cycles, John and Mary. You are both
experiencing a time of enhanced energy and dynamic growth.
Within the contexts of your relationship, you are able to communicate well, enjoy each
other’s company, and play off each other’s energy. Lower blood pressure and less stress
bring more flexibility to the body and to the mind, which explains why this is considered
a cycle of healing.
There is little negative to say about this combination of cycles, except for the inherit
danger of having too much fun. Quite often, the three as well as the five draw elements
of danger in their search for new and exciting experiences, which does not go unnoticed
to those around you. You will have to be careful not to draw into your circle people whose
influence is less than desirable.
3 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and
vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time of strong feelings for both of you. Although inspired by
different motives, you are drawn to each other and feel closer than usual. For John, this
is in part the result of seeing more clearly the importance of everything not related to
career or finances: family, friends, social activities, and so forth. For Mary, the driving
force right now is simply the heart. For both of you, the priorities shift somewhat towards
the joy of living, towards things away from the daily grind.
A possible danger lies in the fact that Mary needs more attention than usual during this
time, while John requires less attention and would rather devote more time to people and
activities outside the relationship.
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