5 & 7 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, not only is this one of the best combinations for long-lasting relationships,
but it is also a merging of archetypes that promises mental and spiritual growth for both
of you.
The five and the seven fulfill each other’s needs and desires in many ways, but particularly
on the intellectual and spiritual planes. Many famous intellectual and artistic couples
shared this combination. This is one of those partnerships that are larger and more promising
than the sum of their parts.
John has a quick and flexible mind spiced with a wicked, offbeat sense of humor. The five
thinks on its feet and looks right through any attempt to disguise. Among neuro-specialists
there is a basic idea that, over the years, the mind tends to think according to established
patterns, like water running through canyons. This may be the case with many people, but
not with those who have a five in this position of the chart. They will never allow their
minds to shelter any repetitive, predictable patterns. Thanks to John’s ability to juggle
ideas and concepts, John will always seem younger and remain more playful and quick-witted
long past the time other people of John’s age group have slowed down.
Mary’s mind is also powerful. However, Mary’s mental and spiritual faculties operate very
differently from John’s. Mary has a dry sense of humor and a more serious mind. Mary seeks
answers to life’s major questions and often spends time staring into some inner space, searching
for insight and understanding. Probably not closely connected to organized religion, Mary
- nonetheless or because of this - has a strong sense of the reality of the God force. For
Mary, the mystery of life is not just some unattainable abstract concept - it is a reality.
It is a major source of inspiration and a force that influences Mary’s daily life. The seven
is the most spiritual of all numbers, but it is rarely found among those who have simply
accepted their local religious presence. The seven asks too many questions and takes the
spiritual much too serious to take anything at face value.
The only real source of discordance that can appear between the five and the seven, John
and Mary, is spiritual in nature. For Mary’s taste, John may seem too flamboyant and superficial
at times. By the same token, for John, Mary may become too hung up on certain spiritual
concepts. John may even see Mary as somewhat of a zealot. It is difficult for John to understand
how someone can become so involved in abstract concepts and philosophies, while Mary may
not be able to accept the fact that for John the experience of life is more important than
trying to analyze it. However, the seven and the five have such a powerful positive influence
on each other that this disagreement rarely appears when a seven and a five form a partnership.
John keeps Mary loose and able to enjoy life also from a simpler, more direct perspective,
while Mary is able to show John how a deep, serious search of understanding can be immensely
gratifying. Frequently, partnerships based on the five and the seven are intellectually
and spiritually dynamic and last for a very long time.
5 & 8 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, this particular aspect of your charts shows that compatibility can only
exist if your roles in the relationship are very different and far apart.
You both have unique qualities, but they rarely overlap. Perhaps the best way to describe
the differences between these two numbers is by looking at it from a business perspective
instead of a romantic one.
As business partners, John and Mary, you could do very well - as long as you play different
roles. The five is an excellent promoter and sales person. John is dynamic and articulate.
John thinks fast and finds solutions easily. Because John can see through facades better
than most people, it is easy for John to influence others and resolve personality issues.
Mary, in turn, is a visionary, has a strong authoritative presence, and can overcome obstacles
because the eye of an eight is always sharply focused on a goal set somewhere in the future
- a goal that is to be met no matter what.
Mary is the executive, John the marketing expert. Very different qualities that can work
well together if you just remember that a promoter and sales person should not try to run
a company, and that an executive officer should not try to tell a marketing expert how to
sell. So, to stay away from problems, don’t try to do your partner’s job.
In a romantic relationship of a five and an eight, John and Mary, a similar picture is
visible. As long as you don’t try to influence each other, as long as you don’t try to tell
your partner how to behave or what to consider a priority, everything is fine. Make a stab
at changing your partner and trouble will certainly be the result.
Other issues that often appear between the five and the eight have to do with Mary’s somewhat
authoritative personality and John’s social nature. As far as John is concerned, there will
never be room for any kind of authority, John is not a subordinate by nature. For Mary,
the fact that John is a social person who can become quite involved with one or more friends
can be a source of envy, even jealousy.
John and Mary, the key to a successful relationship with this particular combination is
space and freedom. Your best hope to making your relationship pleasant and long lasting
is by keeping some distance within your day-to-day life, your lifestyles, your expectations,
your routines.
5 & 9 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
There is very little the five and the nine have in common, John and Mary. In fact, there
is no common ground at all. Imagine a social event where all the participants are pure archetypes
based on the personalities of the cardinal numbers, you will never see the five and the
nine huddled together, laughing and talking and sharing jokes. Like oil and water, the five
and the nine won’t mix. They are so far apart that they would have a hard time keeping a
conversation going, and an even harder time enjoying it - if at all possible...
John and Mary, the numbers found in this particular aspect of the chart are not responsible
for the attraction between you. The fact that you have a relationship indicates strong compatibilities
in other areas of the chart.
You will find that other numbers - as described elsewhere in this report - sustain your
relationship. John, your adventurous, dynamic, and freedom-loving spirit reflected in this
part of your chart can be annoying and perceived as irresponsible by Mary. Mary, your idealism,
your sense of duty and responsibility to mankind, your desire to “make a difference” in
this world, appear superficial to that part of John that is represented by this five.
Although there is not much to be done about this lack of compatibility, the relationship
between a five and a nine is far from doomed. Other aspects of your personalities are obviously
strongly connected and compatible, otherwise there would not be a relationship at all. So,
how can you minimize the lack of compatibility between the five and the nine in this aspect
of the chart?
For Mary, it is important to know that idealism, self-righteousness, duty and responsibility
will only impress John if you don’t take credit for your actions. John distrusts idealism
but admires results. Without limiting yourself Mary, you will have to accept the fact that
you are on your own when it comes to following your heart in these areas.
Similarly, John, in Mary’s eyes you sometimes appear shallow and selfish, not because you
are shallow and selfish, but because Mary connects selflessness and inspired actions with
depth and moral strength.
John and Mary, you will have to compromise and be diplomatic when it comes to these issues
and explore your number combination in other aspects of the chart that certainly have sustained
your relationship.
6 & 6 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, as a rule of thumb, relationships fare better when the core numbers found
in the same location in a chart are not the same. An exception is to this rule of thumb
is the six, considered the most harmonious of all, the most loving and committed of all
numbers, and rightly so!
John and Mary, you both commit strongly to a romantic relationship. There is nothing you
want more than to make the other person happy, to take care of and comfort your partner.
You are dedicated to the point of being willing to sacrifice much of your own needs and
desires towards this commitment.
You love kids, family, friends, and your local community. Your need to distribute love
and comfort is such that, most probably, you will both get involved in something related
to healing, teaching, counseling, or the arts.
John and Mary, you must keep in mind that other numbers also play an important role in
your relationship. However, even if some of those numbers are considered incompatible and
bring in any negative influences, such influences will be at least in part diluted by the
strongly compatible relationship found in this aspect of your charts.
There are instances, though, when the energy of the six may become overbearing, causing
the relationship to shift from committed to co-dependent. This may happen, John and Mary,
if you allow your extremely protective feelings towards each other to cloud your judgment.
Therefore, it is important that you maintain your individuality and your ability to find
happiness and contentment in your own life without depending on your partner or anyone else.
Jealousy is another possible danger you should guard against. The same protective feelings
mentioned earlier, if out of control, can make one possessive, giving rise to jealousy and
distrust; two human traits that have caused so much harm among people who, under normal
circumstances, have no reason to experience such negative thoughts and feelings. Therefore,
if you catch yourself doubting your partner’s faith with no real cause, step back and look
at the situation as objective as possible.
John and Mary, the six found in this part of your chart is a powerful asset to the relationship.
It is a number that brings harmony and love to all other numbers. Make good use of this
blessing and you will live a beautiful romance while distributing love and care not only
to your own family but to your friends and community as well.
6 & 7 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
A strange and not very common combination, the six and the seven have a kind of love-hate
relationship. While the six is strongly committed and motivated by emotions and romance,
the seven is an intellectual and somewhat secretive and distant energy. On one side, John
demands physical and emotional connection; on the other, Mary relies more on an intellectual
bond. This has nothing to do with love in its purest form, since no number is more capable
of loving than any other number. What happens is that each number expresses love in a different
way. John’s six in this part of the chart is more influenced by feelings and emotions and
depends on expressions of love to feel secure and comfortable in the relationship. Mary’s
seven is more independent and enables Mary to feel safe and secure in the relationship even
when there is less sharing of emotions.
Unless this fundamental difference is well understood and accepted, it can become a problem
in your relationship. John may, at times, feel that Mary is cold and aloof, as Mary needs
a certain amount of distance, quiet contemplation, daydreaming, an opportunity to be alone
with the Self - and when Mary is in that state of mind, even John’s loving attention is
experienced as an annoying disruption.
As a result, it is not uncommon for this combination to develop a relationship that can
cause much unhappiness - and yet be unbreakable. Usually, this paradoxical situation is
quite obvious to those around you - and completely unrecognized by you. Everyone around
you will wonder why you stay together when you seem so different on all fronts.
Of course, John and Mary, the six and the seven also allow for happy, long-lasting relationships.
The key is simply to recognize the fundamental difference in the way you express your love
-- and you are both capable of that. John has to realize that even when Mary seems distant
and cold, Mary’s love is not diminished in any way. And Mary may have to accept the fact
that John has to confirm the relationship regularly and does so by reaching out and demanding
attention.
6 & 8 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, the six and the eight are very compatible. You are both practical and goal-oriented
people who are not afraid of responsibility. However, there are big differences in the way
the six and the eight view responsibility, and even bigger differences in the way they pursue
their respective goals.
John’s sense of responsibility is strongly focused on family and friends. John will be
hesitant to do anything that could endanger the comfort and lifestyle of those John is committed
to. Mary’s sense of responsibility is committed to goals and dreams - their fulfillment
is Mary’s priority. Where John will be very reluctant to take risks that might reflect on
those John cares about, Mary will not hesitate to take certain carefully calculated risks
because Mary feels that, if those goals are met, the lives of everyone around will improve.
John is capable of working for a long time to reach a goal, but John is much more grounded,
John will hesitate to step away from the beaten path. Mary has a sense of business and is
a visionary with a practical, can-do mentality.
Interestingly, the six-and-eight combination is excellent for business partnerships. The
six keeps a reign on the dreams and visions of the eight. In turn, the eight can inspire
the six to aim higher and take advantage of the opportunities lying ahead. Without an eight
to inspire a six, the six will likely remain confined to small dreams requiring little or
no risks. Without the grounded realism of the six, an eight often gets lost between the
vision and the goal. In a romantic relationship, John and Mary, the numbers found in this
part of the chart similarly play off each other’s strengths in ways that can be very good
for the relationship.
Problems can arise when one partner tries to dominate the other, which has been known to
happen between a six and an eight. John, your tendency to take on any burden, your willingness
to sacrifice, and your need to feel secure in a relationship, can make you a victim to the
somewhat authoritarian and demanding nature of Mary’s eight. Sometimes, the opposite happens,
and the inherit talent of John’s six to make others feel guilty simply by showing how much
John is willing to do for them can put a real damper on Mary’s potentially powerful and
focused energy.
John and Mary, this aspect of your charts is somewhat similar to reaching a fork in the
road. You have a choice between enriching and enhancing each other’s strengths and talents,
or frustrating your partner’s opportunities. The key to maintain a balanced relationship
is not to try to dominate each other.
6 & 9 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, all numbers dividable by three have several things in common. First and
foremost, all these numbers respond to the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of others.
In the case of a six, this is expressed mainly towards those in the immediate circle: family
and friends. In the case of the nine, it is directed more towards people at large - pretty
much all of mankind.
When a six and a nine are found between romantic partners in this part of the chart, compatibility
is very good. Both of you, John and Mary, are self-sacrificing, giving and caring people.
John is more practical, Mary more idealistic, but your motivations are similar.
Another aspect you have in common is your creativity and your eye for beauty, which, contrary
to what might be expected, is pretty often a source of trouble for the six-and-nine combination.
John and Mary, sometimes you will see eye to eye when it comes to decorating, but often
you won’t. And since you are both opinionated in this matter, in order to prevent unnecessary
arguments, what you should do is give and take a little, something you are both quite capable
of doing.
Another talent or trait you share is a sense of justice. The six and the nine are both
strongly affected by a sense of right and wrong that can be very powerful - sometimes to
the extent that they get involved in politics or become activists. Unless you happen to
be on opposite ends of the political spectrum, this trait can further strengthen your bond.
The six and the nine, John and Mary, are highly compatible. However, there are some areas
where you may find yourself clashing if certain negative traits are allowed to grow. Although
this is not common, a warning might be in place.
The nine, Mary, with its idealistic and self-sacrificing nature, can also be arrogant and
self-righteous. Recognizing the relative value of one’s concepts and ideas is not a strong
point with the nine. Mary, with your innate sense of justice, you may have recognized a
tendency in yourself to put down those who don’t see things the same way as you do. Especially
when combined with strong religious dogmas, the nine can become a negative influence on
others, sometimes ruining a relationship - even with the most devoted partner. If you have
found yourself in that corner, Mary, you would do well to realize that what we believe and
what we think, is just that, a thought, a concept, the truth as we see it. Always keep in
mind that our perspective, no matter how enlightened, is still limited. Knowing that, we
will be able to be compassionate and tolerant towards others. The nine, as you have read
in the previous chapters, is the least prejudiced of all numbers, but as with all human
traits, its dark side tends to be the direct opposite of the light side.
Although the most loving of all numbers, John’s six has a dark side as well, and a dark
side that can be nasty indeed. The six can become intolerant and angry, often without a
clear cause. The irritation and anger seem just to sit there, inside, waiting for an opportunity
to break out, without rhyme or reason.
John and Mary, the negative sides of either the six or the nine are rarely displayed, but
you will need to watch out for them in order to prevent them from spoiling what is most
certainly one of the best number combinations around.
7 & 7 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, yours is a beautiful combination, with great potential for spiritual growth
for both partners. You are people who take life and life’s mysteries serious. Your strong
intellectual and spiritual bond makes you thrive on each other’s mental powers.
The relationship between two seven’s may start in the heart, but it quickly moves to the
soul and the term “soul mates” often applies to people who have the seven in common in this
part of the chart.
Poets at heart - even if you have never written a poem in your life - you understand intuitively
that your bond with each other is spiritual in nature and more valuable to you than anything
else in the world. You grow together, without the need to constantly be together. You communicate
in half sentences and you often find yourself thinking or expressing the exact same thing
your partner was just getting ready to say.
John and Mary, if your relationship is moving towards maturity, you are likely to be, as
they say, connected at the hip. Having said all that, there are also some things you need
to watch for not to spoil such a beautiful relationship. The seven excels at making mountains
out of molehills. No other number can, at times, become as stubborn and unforgiving when
it comes to small matters. In extreme cases, the seven can become small-minded. even neurotic.
While rare, a tendency to let some minor discordance become a major disagreement does exist.
What is interesting though is that, when that happens, it is almost always over something
minor because, when it comes to major issues, the seven is too intelligent to narrow the
mind to a small picture. For example, the same person who can lead a study and discussion
group with great perspective and openness of mind to even the most outrageous ideas can
also turn into a hair splitter when it comes to small household issues.
John and Mary, there is one issue you should be particularly aware of since it has been
known to break apart this kind of otherwise excellent number combination. You both experience
a strong, highly imaginative inner life. As a consequence, you need time to be alone, you
need your own space, your own private domain. When your living space is too small or when
your hectic lives, always surrounded by other people, makes this impossible, you will find
that this need for quiet personal space slowly starts to dominate everything else in your
life. That is why it is not uncommon for someone with a seven in this part of the chart,
to one day just up and leave a promising career and a wonderful family. It is up to you
not to let this anxiety, this need for space and peace become overwhelming. When you realize
this is the ongoing process in your life, you need to answer to the call in a responsible
and timely manner. It is much better to take a four-week vacation than to keep going for
another year or two, just to reach a point where leaving permanently is the only option
left.
7 & 8 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, this combination shows that your relationship is based on other numbers
in your chart rather than the seven and the eight, which usually neither attract each other
nor are naturally compatible in romantic relationships. The notion that opposites attract
does not hold true for the seven and the eight.
That does not mean that you do not live a compatible relationship, but simply that other
numbers in your chart rather than the seven and the eight are at the source of your mutual
attraction.
With the seven and eight in this location in your charts, however, there could be some
major differences that may, at times, cause problems.
You have different sets of priorities. This aspect of the chart reveals that Mary has a
strong drive for financial success and security. For John, spiritual and intellectual growth
is a higher priority. Mary understands intuitively the balance between the material and
the spiritual, and it is this intuitive understanding that makes it possible for Mary to
excel at business, marketing, or sales.
John, in turn, may well have an in-born aversion against everything related to business,
which John may even view as unworthy of attention.
John likes to discuss all kinds of political, philosophical, or spiritual matters, with
a preference for the abstract -- issues that usually seem boring to Mary. Mary prefers the
practical, down-to-earth approach that focuses on results, on the bottom line.
Similarly, you may find yourselves at opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to likes
and dislikes, from movies to books, to travel arrangements, to housing, decorating, art,
and so forth. For example, John might enjoy life in a rather isolate, cozy country home,
while Mary might derive pleasure from living in a futuristic loft in a great metropolis.
The friends you attract are also very different, and so are your social needs. The seven
in John’s chart points to quiet conversations rather than loud parties. Mary needs the occasional
experience of abundant noise and interaction with others.
As you can see, the lack of compatibility between the seven and the eight have nothing
to do with the heart, but everything with the experience of daily life, the practical matters
- where to live, how to decorate the house, the friends you choose, and so forth. This can
all be overcome by allowing each other a lot of space and freedom in the way you live your
life. Mary has to make peace, not to condemn John’s choice of friends, career, and even
the way John deals with money. On the other hand, John should respect the way Mary focuses
on practical goals and results. Mary’s drive for success and financial growth are natural
parts of Mary’s make-up and necessary ingredients for happiness.
7 & 9 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, the seven and the nine usually get along fine, as long as too much interaction
is not required. Although compatible in some areas, they are not that interested in each
other’s issues. If you imagine the seven and the nine as two archetypes forced to spend
some time together in a social event, you might see them politely chatting about superficial
stuff for a couple of minutes, then lapse into extended silence. However, there is no dislike,
the issue here is simply a lack of interest.
John and Mary, although the numbers in this part of your charts add no particular excitement
and energy to your relationship, on the plus side we find that they rarely cause any kind
of discordance.
Religion is one of the few areas where the seven and the nine tend to be incompatible.
Mary thrives on faith and has the intuitive understanding that all things are in balance.
This understanding is also the reason why Mary may occasionally experience completely unexpected
financial windfalls in the form of an inheritance or some other stroke of luck. John, on
the other hand, needs to be able to recognize logic and does not accept anything at face
value. John questions everything and religious belief, at least as reflected by the seven
in this part of the chart, is alien to John’s intellectual quest for understanding. Sometimes,
this can turn John into a skeptic, even cynical, which goes against the faith of the nine.
Your completely different taste may well generate other areas of conflict. John might enjoy
life in a great metropolis, while a cozy chalet up on a hill in the countryside would be
like Paradise for Mary. But one thing is for sure: when is comes to deciding colors and
objects for your home, the nine is unquestionably better suited.
8 & 8 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, the fact that you both have an eight in this part of the chart puts you
in a position where you are well suited to support each other’s endeavors, as well as start
something together. You are both visionaries with imagination and a talent for business.
However, you are also both driven to be in charge, and you don’t like to surrender control
to someone else. Because of this, you may find yourselves competing against each other at
times. That should be avoided because, in a relationship, competition can turn into jealousy
and anger. As long as you direct your strongly competitive natures against other forces,
you have a good chance of a long and happy relationship, quite possibly financially prosperous
as well.
The eight is a good number for business, but its tendency to risk everything in the pursuit
of a dream may bring about either enormous success or total failure. No other number causes
a financial roller-coaster life like the eight. You will need to keep an eye on each other
in order to prevent excessive risk.
John and Mary, the biggest danger in this combination is poverty. To be financially strapped
will negatively impact on all other areas of your life, including romance. It is important
that you follow your heart and your intuition in the pursuit of success - that is the nature
of the eight - but it is equally important that you keep enough of your assets out of risk
in order to avoid serious problems. John and Mary, considerable financial problems will
almost certainly ruin your relationship.
You both understand the need for authority in life, particularly when it comes to raising
children. You may have a tendency to be stricter and more controlling than most parents
and this, too, can become a source of trouble. Families in which both parents have eights
in this part of the chart tend to create environments wherein the children are given everything
they need, including plenty of love, but that will come accompanied by too much control,
and children will certainly rebel. You may realize that you have been under the illusion
that you can form and shape your children according to your expectations, a guaranteed recipe
for disappointment. Relax. Your children will grow up fine even if their dreams and goals
are completely different from yours.
8 & 9 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, this part of the chart reveals two numbers at completely opposite ends of
the spectrum, which have nothing in common and are not considered compatible. However, they
are often strongly attracted to each other; an attraction that lasts and forms the foundation
for a relationship that can remain interesting and fresh for many years, because there is
always something new to discover in each other.
A go-getter with big dreams and expectations, John has a good chance to turn some of those
dreams into reality because John is highly motivated and willing to put forth enormous effort
to reach a goal. Mary is equally focused but driven by completely different priorities and
motives. In fact, as a rule of thumb, the eight in John’s chart reveals a need to work and
direct energy towards accumulating wealth and power. This is the nature of the eight, and
therefore healthy and necessary. The nine, as found in Mary’s chart, should be motivated
by the work and the way it affects the lives of others, never by financial gain or any other
form of worldly success. A nine will never find happiness or achieve success when motivated
by worldly desires. Rather, it will find personal reward and tremendous success when driven
by humanitarian motives. As you can see, your priorities are as different as night and day,
yet both are as they should be.
Many times you will find yourselves at opposite sides of a discussion. You rarely agree
when it comes to practical matters. You will need to recognize and respect the big difference
between the two of you. If you take each other for granted, and start to feel you can predict
and control your partner, your relationship will certainly break down. The keyword in this
relationship is respect. As long as you respect each other, disagreements - of which there
will probably be plenty - will not be able to weaken the foundation of your relationship.
9 & 9 Compatibility (and vice
versa)
John and Mary, this combination often creates a partnership that goes well beyond romance.
Both idealists, you are sufficiently focused and have enough clarity of purpose to devote
your life to a single goal, paying little or no attention to the monetary aspect. Contrary
to what one might expect, this often results in financial prosperity, albeit not until somewhat
later in life.
Most likely, John and Mary, recognition of similar souls was responsible for the initial
attraction between you. Endless conversations that were mutually inspiring helped you realize
that your dreams were attainable and that you needed and wanted the company of each other.
The bond is strong and will not weaken over time, since you thrive on each other’s experiences.
The compatibility is powerful and strengthens each of you as individuals.
You may find yourselves choosing almost identical careers, perhaps even within the same
organization or institution. All these similarities make others see you as an unbreakable
couple, the kind of bond that often exists between brothers and sisters.
However, some pitfalls may exist, even in this extremely compatible combination.
John and Mary, in extreme cases, the number nine shows a tendency to believe in ideals
to such an extent that it turns into an obsession. Self-righteousness, narrow-minded moral
values, and religious fanaticism are not uncommon, nor are arrogance, pride, and a superficial
confidence. That explains the fact that the number nine is often found among political and
religious extremists. Excessive belief in your ideals may cause problems to your relationship.
It is important for both of you to remain open to other people’s ideas, to respect their
different opinions, and to remain humble within yourselves.
John and Mary, the only real danger in a relationship between the nine’s found in this
part of the chart appears when either or both of you lose your ability for self-criticism
and self-reflection. It is essential to keep in mind that even in idealism, moderation is
required - in fact, it is the keyword to safeguarding this otherwise excellent number combination.
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