Numerology course 21.

Ancestral Influences. House and Telephone Numbers. Book Reviews (Numerology; Key To Your Inner Self, by Hans Decoz)

ABOUT RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY NUMBERS.

Relationship Compatibility numbers do not require any kind of calculation. However, when analyzing the meaning of the compatibility numbers, we mainly look at three things:

For example, if one person has a 4 Life Path, and the other a 7, we look first and foremost at the archetypal personalities of the 4 and the 7, but we also look at the 3 “Bridge.” (The difference between 4 and 7 is 3 and is similar to a Bridge number.). In addition, we look at the sum of the 4 and the 7, which is 11. As you know, when two people come together, they inevitably enhance some characteristics and reduce others.

Audio Lecture; The Relationship Compatibility number. 3 Minutes. (Available on CD only.)

THE MEANING OF THE RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY NUMBERS.

More than any other number in your chart, your Expression number reflects who you are as a person. Earlier, you read about the Life Path number and how important that number is in your chart. However, the Life Path number reflects “the path you walk on,” and should be seen more as a powerful influence than as a part of your personality makeup. Your Expression number on the other hand, reflects a deeper part of you. It is more difficult to overcome possible negative traits you may have recognized in yourself when they are found in this part of the chart, than when they are found under the Life Path description.

It can’t be emphasized too much how important it is to realize that numbers in different areas of the chart affect you differently, even when it is the same number. Sometimes, you may read something that seems to directly contradict earlier statements. Yet, if you take the time to think about them carefully, you will probably recognize that you, as a human being, are extremely complex and full of the same contradictions. This is simply the way we are. You may be organized in one area of your life, while chaos rules in another area. You may be tactful and sensitive in one setting, and direct and confrontational in another situation.

Compatibility of the Heart’s Desire numbers is very important in a relationship - few relationships last beyond the initial stage if the Heart’s Desire numbers are not compatible.

The Life Path numbers are the most important numbers in your charts, and, as such, their compatibility is very important to the well-being of your relationship.

The Personality number is generally quickly recognized when two people first meet, not many relationships even get started unless the Personality numbers are compatible.

To improve readability of the compatibility texts we wrote them to two fictitious people; John and Mary.

1 & 1 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John and Mary, you two make up a challenging and rare combination. Although most couples keep looking for things they may have in common, in this particular case, this does not always translate into an advantage. Yours is a relationship of extremes, with powerful feelings and sometimes almost uncontrollable urges by the partners to "confront" each other. Both of you are headstrong, competitive people who will not play second fiddle to anyone. You refuse to surrender your leadership qualities, even to someone you are attracted to. And two people, both with a 1 in this aspect of the chart, don't often provide much room for attraction in their lives because, even when meeting the first time, their competitive nature will get in the way of a simple loving and giving relationship. Instead, they recognize the need to be "king of the mountain" in the other persona and, like two bulls, will start butting heads to gain the upper hand.

On the other hand, when two people with this kind of driving forces meet and do get along, the source of this attraction is powerful enough to overcome their mutual competitive streaks, which makes their relationship a promising one.

It is important to look at other compatible aspects of this relationship in this report in order to understand where the love and care is supported by compatible, perhaps complementing, personality traits.

If this relationship has existed for some time, you have obviously found ways to get around the difficulties of two equally strong and individualistic personalities. If this relationship is relatively new, you will have to learn to accept an occasional second place and discover the powers of humility and sensitivity.

Be particularly careful not to let verbal arguments escalate. Both of you are capable of confrontation when the need arises. And the possibility of aggression, and, in extreme cases, even violence, does exist in your combination.

Instead, both of you have to learn to step back and take a breather. Think twice, even three times if you can, before speaking words you might later regret.

1 & 2 Compatibility (and vice versa)

Yours is a very promising combination, because, strange as it may seem, you have very little in common - at least in this aspect of the chart. This particular core number shows John to be strong and driven, competitive and motivated, and, perhaps, a bit bullish and overbearing. Mary, on the other hand, is by nature more the "power behind the throne", the person who understands what goes on on a deeper level. Sensitive, intuitive, insightful and supportive, Mary will always allow John room to throw some weight around, without loosing sight of what has to be done and how to do it. The fact that you don't play a power game has a very important role in this relationship. Both of you know what you want, know how to make the other understand, and, thanks to these abilities, you succeed in complementing each other very well.

However, always remember to look at the other compatible aspects in your number combination so as to keep this in perspective.

John does have to be careful with Mary. John's strength is like a strong stick - it won't break easily and isn't concerned about getting damaged. Mary's strength is more flexible, but also more vulnerable. Mary will bend and surrender to other forces more easily, being therefore also more vulnerable to verbal abuse and negative criticism, things John is perfectly capable of shrugging off without much damage to the ego. Interestingly, it is precisely because Mary is able to bend with the forces, that Mary is the real survivor when a serious storm hits, where as, if the wind is strong enough, John's strength may snap.

At least in this aspect of the chart, the key in this relationship is "mutual respect" and "sincerity". John has to understand that Mary's willingness to compromise or surrender does not represent weakness or an indecisive nature. John also has to be aware that Mary is not easily fooled. Mary may accept a certain explanation or a chain of events without confrontation, but this is more a result of a deeper insight and better perspective than cowardice. Mary recognizes insincerity, lying and role-playing much quicker then John. Therefore, John would be well advised not to underestimate Mary. As for Mary, keep in mind that John's showing of strength and bravura does not mean that John's feelings are not susceptible to being hurt. In fact, behind that facade of strength and courage is a human being who experiences matters of the heart very powerfully.

1 & 3 Compatibility (and vice versa)

You are both blessed to form one of the best combinations -- one that is often a source of happiness and mutual pleasure for a long, long time. The individualism and originality of the one combined with the creativity and "anything goes" attitude of the three make for a wonderful, exciting, and often adventurous relationship. Unlike many couples, John and Mary, you play together, laugh together, and often have truly inspirational and enlightening conversations. Of course, the number one's typical characteristics make John the central force in this relationship, while Mary contributes to it by bringing the sunshine and lightness of heart that help the two of you overcome obstacles and challenges more easily than most other couples. Think of this relationship as the tree and the butterfly, and I am sure I don't have to tell you who is who in this paraphrase.

However, in spite of the unusual number of positive aspects in this combination, you should be on the alert for some potential pitfalls. John values responsibility and loyalty, being very serious about goals and dreams, especially those involving other people's lives. John has an in-born ability to put forth effort over a long period of time and won't easily let any goal or dream go. On the other hand, Mary is more playful and creative, as well as restless. Mary may well change direction easily, especially when a particular goal may seem hard to reach. Mary gets bored more quickly and may give up on a project before it starts bearing fruit, which can be very disturbing to John. However, paradoxical as it may seem, it is precisely this unlikeness between your personalities that brings balance to this relationship.

All in all, there is little negative to say about this combination. Therefore, with an eye on the possible pitfalls, just try to explore your respective natural qualities to the utmost and enjoy a very happy, enriching and rewarding life together for many, many years - you may even be able to develop your relationship to perfection!

1 & 4 Compatibility (and vice versa)

This aspect of the chart reveals a combination that can be solid as a rock for a long time only to crash and burn in the blink of an eye. Stubborn, highly motivated, a self-starter and an unconventional individualist, John is also adventurous and not afraid of trying new, even risky paths. Strongly driven, the number one doesn't usually give a hoot about other people's expectations. So, John does whatever John wants to do and will fight anyone and anything trying to get in the way. Mary is no less gifted in the areas of persistence and ambition. However, the number four stands for everything that is sturdy, reliable, patient, responsible, conventional, detail-oriented and "doing things the way they should be done." And this is precisely where some possibly dangerous pitfalls for this relationship lie. Mary has both feet firmly on the ground. Undeterred by the prospect of having to take care of things that might be boring and routine, Mary will do the job, no matter what. Mary will not step aside just because something is difficult or may take a lot of time. The four marches on until the job is done. Period. John, on the other hand, does not have that kind of patience. When the forces are no longer in John's favor, it's time for war. "Confront the challenges head on with a 'damn the consequences' attitude" - this is John's dilemma. This can be a thriving relationship as long as John doesn't start on a path of unknowns and risky, questionable results. However, that will unavoidably happen and Mary will at times be seen as a stick in the mud, a source of frustration for John. When this kind of situation becomes overwhelming, it will almost certainly bring this relationship to and end.

On the other hand, as long as John is able to respect Mary's need for a secure, perhaps even predictable, lifestyle, and Mary can understand John's need to try new avenues, take risks, occasionally venture out into unknown territories, the relationship can endure.

1 & 5 Compatibility (and vice versa)

The compatibility of these two numbers is about as good as it gets. There will never be any danger of boredom, complacency, or emptiness in a relationship that has heads turning and people whispering. Like wind and fire, the personality traits in this combination can both create and destroy, but the one and five feed on each other and respect each other's powers. They are like a blacksmith and his anvil, and when they set out side by side to fulfill their goals and dreams, nothing can withstand their combined forces. This is a relationship of intensity and moments of rarely achieved highs, where the promise of ecstatic experiences of love, spiritual bonding and shared dreams is very real.

As with any number combination, dangers also hover over their heads. Sometimes, undesired winds blow and forces turn - not so much against each other as against their shared dreams. When that happens, their mutual influence becomes destructive, turning a moderate, healthy need for variety, sensual pleasure and adventures into a negative force.

As with all things in life, reaching up takes effort while sliding down is only a matter of letting go. As long as the willingness to reach up and the capacity to put forth effort and self-control exists for both John and Mary, this can be a wonderful ride. But they should both always be on the alert - it is not uncommon for this combination to pull each other down. When the partners allow that to happen, they may end up involved with drugs, alcohol, sex, food-addictions, laziness, or blaming the world for their misfortunes, and blaming each other as a final result. Therefore, living this combination of numbers can be compared to skating on thin ice.

Mary, it is very important that you maintain focus on what you want out of this life. Do not get distracted or seduced by the pleasures that are so easily obtainable. Set high standards for yourself. In this relationship, John must truly play the role of a captain on the ship, but not because Mary is not capable. As a matter of fact, Mary has more talents than you can shake a stick at. However, John's energy is more directed and controlled, while Mary's is more dynamic, more volatile - yet not in an aggressive way. Mary is impulsive, responsive to the moment, less controlled and, for all that Mary is, therefore, also vulnerable to being misguided. Keep in mind that too much adventurism can be a dangerous thing.

While this is one of the most promising and long-lasting combinations, it is also one that can take you both to the edge. Therefore, discipline and moderation are the key words in this relationship.

1 & 6 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John is fortunate. Mary's six reflects a great capacity for love, understanding, sacrifice and support. The six is, by nature, perhaps the most harmonious of all numbers.

But John is not the only one who is fortunate in this relationship. Mary also has reasons for gratitude. John will protect and defend Mary through thick and thin. The power of the one should not be underestimated. And to have that power and concentrated energy on your side, Mary, can be a real blessing. John can make you feel safe and secure, since there is nothing wishy-washy about John. This is a combination that can last for a long time, without ever going through the kind of turbulence so many other relationships experience. But, as always, there is another side to the coin.

This aspect of John's chart reveals an inner force and a driven energy that doesn't slow down for anything. John doesn't put up with weakness and is demanding of others. Like a true leader, John needs to see courage and strength represented in others. Mary reveals a different nature. At least in this aspect of the chart. Mary is compromising, forgiving and sometimes sacrificing to a fault. John has to be careful not to see this as a weakness, since Mary's ability to defend the weaknesses of others is alien to a number one. Likewise, Mary may at times be disturbed to recognize a somewhat hard and unforgiving quality in John. Mary should not confuse that with a lack of compassion. John is certainly capable of offering compassion, especially towards victims of circumstances, where fault or laziness, or cowardice is not an issue. Only when John feels someone is not pulling his or her weight, can John respond quite harshly.

The important thing for both John and Mary is to understand that they are very different in the way they view human qualities. Their priorities differ. That's all. Therefore, if they are able to keep an eye open for their differences and value their respective good qualities, they will certainly enjoy a long life together.

1 & 7 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John and Mary, your compatibility in this aspect of the chart is very unpredictable. Some relationships between one's and seven's thrive while others don't stand a chance. The initial connection in this combination is usually intellectual - a level where you can relate and have plenty to share. John's brazen attitude towards new and old concepts, a willingness to get off the beaten path, and an open and unconventional mind make for a great intellectual partnership with Mary. Mary realized at an early age that something was "different". The seven is an intensely curious number, challenging everything others take for granted. It digs and stirs old concepts and shows how what looks straightforward to the rest of us, is, in fact, far from simple and far from obvious. Mary knows what it is like to stand apart from the crowd. And what is more, never to have felt uncomfortable with that. Though a bit lonely at times, it is also very gratifying in that it leads to the knowledge that there is more to daily life than meets the eye. No number experiences the excitement and exhilaration brought forth by moments of true clarity and insight as well as the seven.

Therefore, you are two people who happily venture into new, strange or unknown intellectual and spiritual territories. Free thinkers - for very different reasons and driven by very different perspectives - the combination of which makes a nice, spicy recipe.

Matters of the heart, feelings and emotions - that is where you, John and Mary, may encounter trouble spots. Neither one of you is eager to expose your inner self. You are private, sensitive and vulnerable people. You don't carry your heart on your sleeve. You, John, because you recognize strength and endurance as your in-born assets. Mary because you are comfortable keeping distant and remaining somewhat separated.

The human qualities needed to help you experience your relationship on the deepest levels, where it really matters and where it can grow and prosper, are emotional courage and the strength to allow yourself to be weak, which, by the way, is not a contradiction. Emotional courage is the courage to expose your sensitive, vulnerable side, and this requires faith in your partner but, more importantly, faith in yourself. Keep in mind that it is okay to lay yourself open - you have the strength to survive!

Both of you, but particularly Mary, may be tempted to go the other way, becoming cynical and untouchable. Watch out! There is no worse place to go and the consequences of such a shift are usually visible in a trail of broken relationships.

1 & 8 Compatibility (and vice versa)

Your respective Life Path numbers make you two strong-willed but at the same time, somewhat stubborn people. Often, when you are both around, it is like having two captains on a ship - your conflicting orders can lead to explosive arguments, which, in turn, may lead to uneasiness, discomfort and even distress. Therefore, willingness to compromise is very important in your relationship, otherwise small arguments can be blown out of proportion.

Mary has a remarkable talent for managing financial matters. Therefore, Mary should be the one controlling the money. You both have good business instincts, which could result in very successful shared endeavors. Should you decide to go that way, make sure you keep each other’s duties and responsibilities carefully separated so as to avoid any type of personality conflicts. Whatever your decision may be, it is important that you have faith in each other’s abilities and act independently. However, since both of you like to do things your own way and neither of you is good at delegating, you should be aware that this will not be an easy task to be accomplished.

Neither one of you accepts anything less than full respect and an equal playing field. Similarly, neither one of you can be dominated or would accept being someone’s sidekick.

However, while Mary understands the material world and needs to see material results and rewards, John is more attached to the satisfaction that comes from knowing you did a good job.

Although you may have your differences, it is important that both of you understand that you have a lot in common as well. The one and the eight are very compatible numbers and you will find you have many interests in common - many more than you thought. Another positive aspect in your relationship is that you love to share your experiences, and sharing experiences has, most of the times, proved to be quite enriching. But the fact that you are both more sensitive behind that strong and independent facade than you let on opens the door to possible hurtful comments and increases the danger of doing each other, in the heat of an argument, more damage than either of you realizes. Therefore, always keep in mind that the keywords to this relationship are compromise and communication. If you are both able to compromise and communicate in your day-to-day life, you will also be able to enjoy a pleasant, rewarding and happy relationship, taking advantage of the many interests you have in common.

1 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)

Due to the fact that both of you have a tendency towards arrogance as well as to being somewhat egocentric, this is a very difficult relationship, as far as romance is concerned. At least in this aspect of the chart. It will only work if a certain amount of distance is maintained. Each of you has to live your own life. Ironically, although difficult, this is not a bad combination for most other kinds of relationships. Friendships, parent-child as well as business relationships, often work very well with this combination. Precisely because the numbers stand on opposite ends of the spectrum. They complement and balance each other. Together, they represent a lot of talents and useful qualities that ensure a powerful combination in most relationships, except in romance.

The solution lies in mutual understanding, not to get in your partner's way, not to expect your partner to always be there for you, and certainly not to expect your partner to live the kind of life you feel is right.

This combination has a much better chance of surviving if John and Mary have the number two and/or six among their other core numbers.

The numbers one and nine are far apart and this is reflected in John and Mary's understanding of each other. In many areas of life you are so different that you can't even relate to the other person's view. And, as with every romantic relationship, these shared views are required. We feel secure in the knowledge that our partner confirms what we feel and think. And, if the relationship between John and Mary is of the romantic type, there will just not be much of that.

Very often, when a one and a nine engage in a romantic relationship, the people on the periphery think it is very funny to see them together. Together but yet so different, so unique. Neither John nor Mary tends to conform easily to the rules and expectations of society. And that is one of the few characteristics you have in common. However, you probably dress very differently, have very different tastes, and consider different things important. Chances are that you are each other's polar opposite. And, while we say that opposites attract, the trouble is that they also tend to push each other away when they get too close.

There are no easy solutions or foolproof guidelines that work here. If you have been together for a while and your love is strong, this love will keep you together. If the relationship is fairly recent, your focus should be on your heart, your pure and unconditional love for your partner. And here is the most important advice to make this relationship last: Don't expect to change or influence your partner.

2 & 2 Compatibility (and vice versa)

This aspect of the chart reveals both of you to have a sensitive, vulnerable side. Sometimes that is favorable, other times it prevents issues from getting resolved, like when you step around the issue carefully, afraid to hurt the other. This may cause issues to fester and start eating at the foundation of your relationship. Therefore, it is important not to walk away from the problems because you don’t want to rock the boat. It is best to face them up-front!

John and Mary, you both have a healthy respect for the power of feelings and emotions, but you have to guard against avoiding confrontations altogether. Sometimes, a confrontation is necessary to clear the air and resolve the problems, in other words, “to send the phantoms away”.

As two people who feel and experience emotions strongly, you are both more vulnerable to criticism. This is something you may have to consciously work on. Sometimes, as I mentioned, you will avoid addressing an issue. Other times, especially when those unresolved issues cause resentments, you, like boxers, may be tempted to lash out to your partner with a "below-the-belt" criticism, revealing your anger and resentment in a way that can be very harmful for the relationship. Even more devastating, it can shut the door to any chance you might have had to resolve the underlying problem. Frequent instances of that behavior might undermine your relationship and, sticking to the paraphrase, a knock-out would not be totally impossible.

As you can see, although couples keep looking for things they may have in common, in this aspect of the chart, the fact that you both have a two does not translate into an advantage. On the positive side, you can relate to each other’s emotional experiences. On the negative side, instead of one person balancing the other, you may, instead, enhance a negative experience until perspective is lost and all that remains is pain and anger.

John and Mary, you both have a tendency to use the occasional white lie to circumvent what you perceive as dangerous ground. This is not always a bad thing. However, unless other numbers in your chart support your ability and your willingness to grab the bull by the horn when tact and diplomacy are no longer suitable, this avoiding of difficult subjects can have the effect of pushing each other away. You start creating a world of your own, slowly pushing your partner away. If you have the kind of relationship where the partners live their own life quite happily, there is no problem. However, you are both people of the heart and that pretty much makes that kind of lifestyle impossible.

The key to maintaining a healthy and stable relationship when both partners have a two in this part of the chart is to recognize the need for planned pow-wows. Whenever an issue needs to be handled, discuss it openly and frankly, but never guided by impulse and emotions of the moment. Instead, tell your partner that something is bothering you and you want to talk about it. Then, build up a setting: make a cup of coffee, sit down around the table, and emphasize to your partner that you know first and foremost that your love is strong and enduring, and that, in order to keep it strong, you have to bite the bullet and talk about it. In such a setting, you can discuss the situation intelligently, without getting too emotional and without letting anger and irritation control the discussion.

2 & 3 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John, as a number two, you are not very well equipped to deal with criticism and confrontations - - you are vulnerable and can hold a grudge. On the other hand, Mary, as a number three, has an in-born ability to let negative criticisms bounce off without letting them do much damage. That does not mean that Mary can't be hurt, but simply that Mary does not allow little things to spoil the experience. And that is exactly where a possible danger exists. A bit tactless at times, Mary can occasionally put the foot in the mouth, without realizing that this has a negative effect on John. However, when “little things” grow into big emotional issues in which even Mary is strongly affected, Mary will respond passionately. Mary may even lose sight of the beauty and love that is the foundation of your relationship, letting anger and sharp verbal skills do considerable damage. John will respond, perhaps with a few angry words, but, more likely, by withdrawing. Thus, a hard kernel of resentment wrapped up in confusion and sometimes hidden from view for a long time - since John doesn't think too clearly when emotions are in play and tends to walk away from confrontations - may eventually become a source of such discontent that it will take everything Mary has to offer to bring John back.

On a more positive note, the combination of 2 and 3 is a very passionate and strong one. So, as long as Mary keeps verbal impulses under control, and John has enough self-confidence to handle occasional criticisms, the relationship has every chance of bringing lots of love and joy to your life.

Often, the combination two and three in this aspect of the chart also enhances each other's creative juices. The sense of harmony and rhythm connected to the two merges beautifully with the powers of expression so native to the three. Your relationship is strengthened enormously by sharing creative interests, and that is where you should concentrate your efforts.

Keep in mind that beauty and love lie at the bottom of your relationship, and that it is in your own hands to gradually destroy or make them stronger day after day. Discuss any issues - open and frank, but also with tact and sensitivity - as they come up.

2 & 4 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John and Mary, the two and four combination found in this part of the chart is a powerful asset in your relationship. The tact, sensitivity, intuition and innate ability to recognize the more subtle things in life that John brings to the table complement Mary's grounded and practical perspective. It is a combination of extremes that brings balance to the relationship and the partners are not only strengthened but also complemented by each other, just like mortar and brick, energy and matter, earth and sky. You are lucky to make up one of the best possible combinations.

However, since perfection is not easy - if not impossible - to find, your relationship is not free from danger. Precisely because the two numbers are so opposite, there can, at times, be a lack of understanding. John and Mary, the two and four may very well be in large part responsible for the initial attraction that brought the two of you together. Mutual admiration, a need to draw into your life what you subconsciously knew to be lacking. Your coming together is like a poor man winning the lotto, or a rich man discovering humility. No doubt, that is a most fortunate, positive fact, but, at the same time, what do you do with such a beautiful alien force once it enters your life? Do you know how to make it part of your life without making it lose its shine? In other words, Mary doesn't always relate to John's strong emotional consciousness. On the other hand, John can be annoyed when Mary’s practical view of life overshadows idealism. This can be a cause of trouble you must be on the alert for and prepared to deal with. But, when all is said and done - and this is the key to any healthy, stable and enjoyable relationship - this occasional lack of understanding becomes a minor infraction on an otherwise perfect balance of human qualities.

So, just look at your differences as the force that brings balance to your relationship, and carefully work on them.

Although this is only one aspect of your charts, it is so strong that it will take a powerful storm to blow this relationship off its foundation.

2 & 5 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John and Mary, this aspect of the chart requires some special attention since, as a rule of thumb, the two and the five found in the same part of the chart make for short-lived relationships. They simply do not understand each other. In fact, they do not really like each other.

The fact that you have a relationship means that other numbers are making up for the usual discordance that prevails between these two numbers. However, it is important to emphasize that the two and the five are only disharmonious when they are found in the same location in the chart. This disharmony does not exist when they are not in the same location. For example, a 2 Life Path can be quite harmonious with a 5 Heart's Desire.

That being said, we should concentrate on where the discordance comes from and how it can be deflected and rendered harmless.

To do that, let’s think of John as water and Mary as fire. In a controlled environment, each of them has a purpose that can be used to benefit the other. But, when they occupy the same space, one is going to destroy the other. The fire makes the water evaporate, or the water will kill the fire.

Yours can be a strong, lifelong relationship, if you are both willing to accept the other person as is. So, don’t ever try to change your partner in any way and make every effort to lead your respective lives in as independent environments as possible so that your individual purposes can be beneficial and advantageous to the other.

John understands and respects the world of emotions, feelings, and intuitions and is fully aware of the fact that those are, in a very real sense, the bottom line. This is where life pays its dividends. No matter what else is happening in your life, payment comes in "how you feel”, your happiness, your contentment as a human being.

Mary relates to the world of dynamic action, impulsive decisions, and risky adventures. Keeping in perspective that this is only one aspect of the chart, Mary thrives on energies causing motion, causing changes, causing excitement. And Mary will not be slowed down by something as banal as being careful, or by the possibility that someone might not be comfortable with the kind of turmoil Mary generates.

John and Mary, do not forget that other numbers play in your relationship. Therefore, this particular aspect of the chart can be largely offset if you succeed in maintaining some distance, a fairly practical separation of lifestyle and environment. You must keep in mind that your combination of numbers requires that your relationship be one of sharing and caring -- as in a community setting, a community of two -- rather than a relationship where everything is merged and experienced together.

2 & 6 Compatibility (and vice versa)

Two and six are considered the most loving numbers of all. However, their love expresses itself in different ways. John, your two, in this part of the chart, reveals sensitivity, awareness of emotional forces in yourself and others, and an ability to recognize the subtle and often hidden motives in others. Mary, your six points to a powerful urge to care and protect, to shelter those you love and to comfort them. In fact, one of the few traits a six has to guard for is not to smother others with its love.

John and Mary, this combination forms a strong foundation for any relationship, but in particular for a romantic one. You both love easily and without holding back. You are not afraid to reveal your feelings. However, it is only in the strength of their love and their need for sharing and giving that these two numbers overlap. In many other respects, they are very different and, sometimes, even opposite. John, your love is one of feelings and emotions driven by the need for companionship, security, and comfort. It is intuitively aware of the fragile nature of life and therefore has a tendency to be somewhat needy and insecure. A negative expression of this insecurity is jealousy, perhaps even towards people Mary may have a business or friendship relation with. If Mary gives too much time and attention to someone else, John may have some difficulty in accepting that. Mary, on the other hand, can be oblivious to the subtle signs that something is brewing underneath the surface. Mary feels comfortable in a romantic relationship and does not share this kind of insecurity.

Although Mary is not particularly afraid of romantic competition, Mary’s demons also show up in this relationship. Where John requires attention and emotional contact to feel comfortable, Mary may tend to spread attention around in search of other people’s approval and gratitude. Like a parent with grown children, Mary reaches out to take care of, and comfort others, as a way to fill a space that can’t be filled. By doing so, Mary may forget who and what is really important, a trait typical to the six.

More often than not, neither the occasional jealousy and envy of the two, nor the aimless mothering of the six, can do more than put a dent in this relationship. The two and the six are very compatible and the likelihood of a crash is smaller than in most other number combinations.

2 & 7 Compatibility (and vice versa)

In this combination of numbers, intuition meets intelligence, sensitivity meets clinical research, the heart meets the mind. It would be a challenge to find two more different archetypes than this. John and Mary, yours is a unique relationship. Rarely do two such different numbers express even the slightest bit of interest in each other. But, when they do, the partnership is worth every effort. Almost certainly, you met under strange circumstances, perhaps a situation where you were both out of your usual environment, and, most likely, John reached out to Mary.

Once these two completely different numbers come close enough, the result is often an exchange of energy that welds the relationship for life.

The dangers and pitfalls possible in this combination are generally experienced right at the beginning of the relationship. They are numerous and include the inability to relate to the other person’s way of thinking, feeling, and expressing. John’s love is soft and gentle, idealistic and romantic, emotional and innocently childlike. Mary’s love is like a precious jewel; it requires a lot to earn it. Wisdom and knowledge, spiritual understanding and an ageless quality strengthen Mary’s love. At the onset of the relationship, this was the big hurdle to overcome. Mary does not trust love that comes so easily. On the other hand, John simply cannot understand why someone would not just respond. After all, what is more natural than love?

Sometimes, a relationship with this combination of numbers occurs after the partners have known each other for many years, when levels of trust and understanding have been achieved before either one of them thought about romance. So, a romance born on such solid foundations and balanced by pure emotions on one side and wisdom and spiritual understanding on the other can’t but succeed.

So, be that as it may, once other number combinations bring these two opposite archetypes together into this unique relationship, it takes a hurricane to destroy their bond.

2 & 8 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John is drawn to Mary in part because Mary has great inner strength and the kind of personal power that reveals the possibility of worldly success. Capable and goal-oriented, Mary is a force to be reckoned with.

Mary is attracted to John largely because Mary recognizes in John an emotional and spiritual wealth that may well have remained, at least to some extent, dormant in the life of Mary. John lives and experiences life on many levels. John knows the heart and the power of emotions. When brought together, the two and the eight’s individual innate qualities can produce quite a balanced relationship.

This is a combination with potential to survive for years and years. However, an important detail you both must be attentive to is that the relation between a two and an eight is often based on illusions, and when such illusions fall apart, the relationship may crash.

The two sees strength, and thinks it will always be there. The eight sees romance and the subtle powers of the heart, and thinks it will last forever. Neither does, of course. Strength eventually dissipates. The heart slowly loses interest.

However, that does not mean this relationship doesn’t stand a chance. It certainly does. And the key to make it a pleasant, long lasting relationship is to recognize each other for what you are, beyond the obvious. John must learn to love not only Mary’s strength and capabilities but also Mary’s weaknesses. It is important that John can love Mary as a whole human being. And Mary, in turn, must learn to love not only the romantic presence, the passion of the heart Mary craves in John, but John as a whole human being.

Few combinations tend to give birth to relationships based on illusions as often as do the two and the eight. But John and Mary, don’t forget that this is just one aspect of the chart. You both have many other qualities to be brought to the surface, exercised and explored to your mutual benefit. Just keep that in mind, unite your respective strengths and move on to turn yours into a most pleasant, rewarding and long lasting relationship.

2 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)

Whereas John is open and easy going in matters of the heart, Mary is more careful and perhaps distant. In fact, Mary knows that it is in part this care, this need to maintain a safe distance, that has caused passed relationships to crash. It is not easy for Mary to be deeply involved in a relationship and trust that it is safe to act un-inhibited, unselfconsciously. On the other hand, it is natural for John to respond to the moment without first having to weigh possible consequences. John can be immediate, responsive and fearless like a child and, just like a child, feel totally safe.

Always seeking the shelter of the inner world, Mary needs to learn to let go, to surrender to the heart, if this relationship is to endure and grow.

You can give love and friendship left and right, Mary, there is no shortage of love in you. On the contrary. The number nine is self-sacrificing and generous to a fault. Maybe that is the way you release all the love in you. A problem exists only when this love comes too close to the inner Mary. As long as there is some distance, you feel safe. The moment someone attempts to step into your inner world, you have a tendency to close the doors.

John, you are very different. You will certainly invite Mary to share even the deepest moments, without inhibition. But when Mary backs away from that, John, you may well respond with confusion, jealousy and resentment.

As you may have realized by now, the two and the nine don’t get along too well. Although both are caring, loving numbers, the idealistic nine gives to the world and to strangers, while a much more emotionally involved two focuses on one person as the object of its love.

Interestingly, the two and the nine can form powerful alliances in other circumstances, particularly in business. Between the two of them, they can negotiate and influence just about anyone or anything. It is in matters of the heart that their needs and desires are not very compatible.

All this can be countered, albeit with some effort. Mary, you would help yourself and John if you could “loosen up” a bit. Relax the constant vigilance and allow yourself to be more responsive to the moment.

John, you should try to understand that Mary’s need for some distance doesn’t mean the love is not real, or not as strong as yours. If you are able to keep that in mind, you’ll be able to build a peaceful, enjoyable relationship. A relationship, by the way, that can also be very prosperous if you are smart enough to take advantage of the powerful alliances the two and the nine allow for, especially in the business world.

3 & 3 Compatibility (and vice versa)

John and Mary, you both have the creative, happy-go-lucky three in this part of the chart, which indicates lively communications. You inspire and motivate each other in a life-enforcing environment. You joke easily, and, most importantly, you laugh a lot at each other’s jokes. You know how to please each other, so you are able to enjoy each other’s company while moving around in a very active, dynamic social life. On the surface, there is little negative to say about this combination.

However, a little deeper look reveals that, unless you consciously work on it, this same happy-go-lucky environment you share can turn against you and become the root of some persistent problems. You both have a tendency to skim over the rough spots, emotionally and spiritually. This aspect of the chart reflects a strong preference to looking towards the sun without ever considering the shadows you throw behind you. Remember, though, that the sun does not shine throughout the year. No matter one’s preferences, springs, summers, autumns and winters will certainly come -- much to our advantage, each with its respective charm and beauty. All one has to do is to be prepared.

Other much more serious numbers also play in your chart. Therefore, keep in mind that the influence of the three is relative - - and should be understood as such. For a love relationship to have any chance of long-term happiness, you sometimes have to face the emotional turmoil that is, inevitably, part of everyone’s life. So, you should watch for subtle signs indicating that something might be bothering your partner because, although you are both excellent communicators, you don’t use that same talent to express your deeper, private, feelings. Always be attentive and, once you detect something, let’s say, different or strange - even if your partner insists on putting on that happy-go-lucky attitude - see that you two have a deeper, open and frank talk to clear the air.

Another result of this combination, John and Mary, is that sometimes fun and joy become too high a priority, overshadowing such important issues as responsibility and duty. The number three is scattered, unfocused and impulsive, all necessary traits for anyone involved in creative endeavors. It allows for daydreaming, it provides the perfect environment for the mind to wander around in search of new territories, and that is what makes one creative. But, if they don’t come in the proper doses, those same traits can work against us. So, make sure you don’t loose sight of the need for effort and discipline to maintain a foundation of material security that will allow you to experience the fun and joy so necessary to the happiness of both of you.

As you may recognize, the fact that both of you have a three in this aspect of the chart does not mean that you have incompatible personalities. The danger lies in the fact that the less desirable side effects of the three may become enhanced if you don’t guard against them.

3 & 4 Compatibility (and vice versa)

This is both a very promising as well as a very difficult combination. John reveals a fun-loving, optimistic side, a creative, playful, perhaps even childlike nature. John demonstrates to have faith in life and is confident that things will work out, no matter what. In addition, John has a natural, intuitive talent to go with the flow and escape pitfalls almost effortlessly. Mary, on the other hand, is much more grounded, practical, and has a hands-on approach to life. Mary feels that discipline and focus, responsibility, dependability and duty are the requirements to create a life of comfort and contentment. From one perspective, this makes for a nicely balanced relationship. John’s approach works for John. Mary has seen the fruits of effort and discipline and knows there is safety in having at least some control. As long as life doesn’t throw a monkey wrench in your situation, this can be a harmonious, very satisfying relationship.

But when life becomes a challenge, when problems - especially practical, material, worldly problems - come up, John and Mary, this combination of three and four is one of the least prepared to deal with it. John, you may well start resenting Mary for taking such a hard, grab-the-bull-by-the-horns approach, since Mary is not the type of person who backs away and watches things fall apart. In addition, it is important that you bear in mind that we are talking about problems that did not arise between you, from your relationship, but from outside, issues like a shortage of money, the loss of a job, an expensive illness, or some other unfortunate shift.

Mary will be tempted to look at John and question the amount of effort and sacrifice John is investing during this difficult time. Blame will feed resentment and anger, and soon, instead of forming a combined front to overcome the obstacle, you will turn against each other.

When that happens, John and Mary, you will need to step back and realize that, although you may not understand what motivates your partner to respond so differently from what you believe is the correct and required approach, you should not judge. John, you may not believe that Mary makes any sense. You may well feel that all that effort is misdirected, perhaps even detrimental to a positive outcome, but Mary needs that effort. Mary needs to feel that there is some control.

On the other hand, Mary may blame John for not doing enough, which may be true. On the surface, John may seem to be backing away from the problem. John does not focus on the issue itself as much as on whatever is needed to make it go away, or, at least, to make it bearable. John will bring in the optimism and the motivation to go on. John will point to the light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how tiny or seemingly far away, and when everyone else is ready to give up, John will bring in the much needed energy and get you back on your feet. John is invaluable during such a time. And that, too, takes effort.

So, just remember that, although difficult, yours is also a very promising combination, and the key to making the most of it lies on not trying to judge each other, but on combining your many individual qualities.

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